Even those that lived during the pre-mobile era, when the only way to communicate with our partner was the landline (often answered by the mother ...) can hardly imagine their personal relationships without smartphones, today.
Recently, therefore, a major poll took place, by an American magazine between 1,000 women and 1,000 men, in order to identify what is the exact role of “sexting” (erotic messaging) in our lives.
These are some of the most interesting findings:
1.Exchanging SMS’s with our loved one.
•90% of –men and women- participants, answered that they are sending messages to their lover on a daily basis.
•43%, even at least ten times (10) per day!
Of course, not all sms’s are love or sex related. Some are related to practical issues, e.g. shopping arrangements.
•In any case this communication has relationship benefits as we "keep in touch (...) and it renews the romance" according to
Debby Herbenick, PhD, associate professor at Indiana University and author of the book:
“The Coregasm Workout: The revolutionary method for better sex through exercise."
2.Most of us do sexting.
•67% of men and women have sent love SMS and / or revealing pictures to their partners, at some point in their lives .
"There is not, just one kind of sexting» explains Dr. Herbenick .
"There are messages with innuendo or others with clear content. There are sensual photos and nude photos. “
3.Almost everyone who has sent nude photos did not regret it.
•91% of respondents, in the poll said they enjoyed sending revealing selfies. The percentage seems impressive, when you consider the panic in recent months when nude pictures of celebrities went online. Yet, although 40% of people, worry that sometime, their photos will end up in the wrong hands, it is not enough to discourage from not sending them .
4.The mobile communications often betray cheaters.
•24% of men and women have discovered that their partner cheated them, due something they saw on his/hers mobile.
Probably not by accident… As was shown in another survey, by the online service Victoria Milan (a dating site ... for married and in commitment) 83% of those infidels choose their smartphone to communicate with their illicit lover or their mistress.
5.Even so, many of us do not have any hesitation to trust our mobile to our partner.
•Specifically, 77% of respondents in the poll, said they check on their partner’s phone (with his consent). Also 54% of couples share their passwords. However in most cases, psychologists do not recommend this practice: "It is beneficial and healthy to maintain some independence in a relationship" believes Kelly Campbell, Psychology professor at California State University, adding:
“Among the happiest couples, each one keeps a bit of a personal life, for themselves".
What are the results from a research,
done between 2,000 men and women?