The first step is to discuss your concerns with your partner, by approaching him in the right way.
The best idea is to talk clearly, without anger and accusations. We can say: "We have not had sex for a long time and I miss it. I was wondering, how you feel about it. " This conversation will encourage our partner to share his feelings and possibly have an open discussion.
The second step is not take it personally.
You should not think, that if your partner was attracted to you, that would automatically mean that he would want to have sex with you, and it would just happen. Sex is really easy , to start a relationship with, and the desire deletes any thoughts, problems, insecurities. But when time passes, the problems can conquer us and it is too hard to relax, so you can have sex.
The third step is to visit a specialist.
Organic causes should be excluded -and be addressed if existing- as they may underlie the difficulty of a man to have sex. It is necessary to visit a Urologist - Andrologist. If he can not take the decision, you need to encourage him, without of course, forcing him.
The fourth step Start all over again!
Remember how important it was during the beginning of your relationship to look beautiful and desirable. It is important, therefore, to pay attention to yourselves, which is, perhaps, neglected. Also, the same can be asked from your partner, urging him to do things for himself and making compliments when you see something you like. What is also important is to give new opportunities to your relationship, for example by organizing romantic dinners, trips, outings.
Although spontaneous sex is very nice, it is not advisable to rely on it, because-especially if we are busy and / or have children- it can occur us once in a while, for example, only during a vacation. It is appropriate to establish the time and conditions for this. For example, on a Saturday morning to be able to stay a little longer in bed, or on a Friday night, you lie down early, and make sure there are no obligations, for the next day.
Ask for help
Psychotherapy -either individual or jointly, can be very helpful to restore erectile and sexual dysfunction and ultimately improve the relationship of the couple.