1. Most men are still in love with their wives when they are cheating.
When men cheat, does not mean they are no longer in love with their wives. Simply they are just not satisfied with how their relationship at the time. "Infidelity usually happens in the process of intimate partner love, after couples have settled, have children and generally when the life they have built together, has stabilized " says psychologist Andhra Front. While you may feel satisfied in some areas, you might feel that the passion has gone. "Most of the time we think that it is women who complain about the lack of passion, but men can feel the same things," said Forth.
“While suffering in silence, they are thinking, that they can not get from their wives, what they want." To avoid such situations, make sure that you are a few hours during the day which will only spend one to another, for sex, for romantic rendezvous or simply to discuss dreams and thoughts.
2. Men usually cheat with women who they know.
They will not cheat, with random women they met at a bar. The marriage expert Mary Jo Rapini explains: "Many of us think that the women, they will cheat with, are not serious. Great mistake!!! These relationships, first start as friendships and then they develop to be sexual. " In fact, more than 60% of non-marital relationships start at the workplace, according to Focus on the Family Research. “Women go to work, care for their children and then, in the evening end up doing different things from their husbands. This must stop, "says Rapini. She proposes to always go in bed for cuddles and hugs, at the same time .
3. Men cheat to save their marriages.
"Men love their wives, but they do not know how to correct the problems in their relationship, so they go out to fill the gaps," says family counsellor Susan Mandel. Men want it all and have the wrong view, that another woman, will help them to overcome their marriage issues. Then, they still live with their wives - and their mistress - without facing the real problems.
4. Men hate themselves after cheating.
Most of us have in mind, that those who cheat, are men without moral barriers - OK, they liked what they were doing, but it is certain, that after some time they will feel bad about their infidelity. "If he lets his ego aside, he feel like garbage," says expert Charles Orlando relations. "In the end, he is betraying the woman for whom, he cares and takes it hurts him." When cheating, most feel that they have failed as men.
5. Men have more appetite for sex with their wife when they start to cheat.
"When a man starts infidelity becomes sexually hyperactive," says Rapini. “His urges, have been awakened and his wife is still the one, whom he feels completely comfortable in this area. If you notice a change in the mood for sex, you might have to worry. When the extramarital relationship stabilized, it may start off again. "
6. Women cheat as well as men and their extramarital relationships are more serious.
Research of Indiana University showed that men and women cheat the same. But "the reasons, are different." Most likely is that women cheat for emotional satisfaction. “Internet infidelity - without any physical contact - is the most destructive kind of infidelity“. Investing emotionally to another person means that you are disconnected from your wedding. But if you do it just for the sex, it has less to do with the emotional bonding and is simply a wrong impulse.
7. The couple will never be happyfor as long as the man still has an affair.
In tis case, even if they will agree, that a solution to their problems must be found, nothing will change at the end. If he is still at the beginning of a new, hot relationship, you can not do anything to bring him close to you. He feels all these positive feelings, not tormented by quarrels that exist in a stable relationship. The marriage will probably fail, unless, he decides that life is not any better with the other woman. So the key word is prevention. Continue to be the woman you were, when he married you. Women usually change from loving and carrying to annoying and grumpy. Men hate it! Continue to compliment him and surprise him in sex - do not shout about the towel , that fell in the bathroom, proposes Dr. Mandel.
8. Can out of marriage relationships save the marriage?
Does infidelity destroys a marriage eventually? Not always. Although a new relationship can be really exciting “it can re-hit the marriage," says Orlando. "Men are realizing how they want to spend the rest of their life, and that their new relationship is not as perfect as they expected." But think twice, before getting back with someone who cheated. "Infidelity shows how little self-control one has" .
9.Its not the woman's fault if her husband cheated.
Lets be clear: If your husband is unfaithful, its not your fault, whatever other people, might say. "When a man cheats, he does it consciously. Nobody pushes him into the arms of another woman. Men do not cheat because of those who are not their wives. They do it, because of those, who are not the same. Their only common mistake is, that all signs of decoupling, get ignored.