Smartphones and Social Media have made it easy -compulsory- to expose ourselves shamelessly.
Are we converted into an untreatable narcissist race?
Who does not feel great whith a good photo? I have friends, that I never expected to see on facebook and other friends who they would prefer to cut off their hand before taking a selfie, but we're all here, in the same timeline, to do what we once thought it was too bad:
show off !!!
And I, not sinless, first of all, I have to admit:
Only a few things can boost my day, as some successful social networking, ideally combined with a compliment!
Narcissism! As ancient as the reflection of a human image in the waters of a lake, but lately psychologists say that it has become too much. They blame for this increased vanity in millennial. Children who were born at the turn of the millennium. Like my closest friend.
She is beautiful and photogenic. Her Instagram selfies have hundreds of likes and comments, in modern slang (Mercy, do not cut pronouns, sounds like rustic).
Internet is the mother language, which was her culture since the day she was born. What's my excuse?
And not just me. There are other adults who daily look for some shade and peace to promote their own personal social media agenda.
My father posts at least 4-5 status updates a day, exercising tough opposition, my husband posts the gourmet burger, he made and I wake up every morning, with a goal to have a good photo at the end of the day, with my new caftan which I do not always succeed, …to my great disappointment.
Surely millennial is if anything the more, "look at me, I'm pretty“, generation in the world’s history. A selfie is as natural as a Good Morning, no big deal, people do not even sit to think too much, do not have their own insecurities. As we speak, so many topless photos are uploaded on their snapchat, while my brain gets overheated, while trying to find out, how the new account we opened for the magazine, works.
While none of us can hold for a minute, hands away from the cell, perhaps eventually the super narcissism era has nothing to do with age?
For at past five years the first thing I do when I wake up and the last before I sleep, is to grab my mobile from the bedside table and look at my notifications. Notifications, this counter of our popularity, the table that measures our scores: how many liked us today? Yes, do not think you are less vain because you prefer the words from Instagram filters. In fact, the intellectual narcissism of Twitter is much more dangerous than that of the selfies, … the need to know that you should be heard, at all costs, even if it will hurt some, is more toxic!
Some of us have an easy excuse: it is for the job! The truth is that even you have left your bones in the office due to work load for a week, and you did not have time to post anything related, to facebook, then you feel like you made a hole in the water: If not advertising your professional accomplishments, to your followers community, doesn’t it go down the drain? I am sure you feel exactly like I do!
As I caught myself spending my, already non-existent, free time to do creative posts with products placement
I remembered a conversation I recently had with a multinational executive, who is forced to have an Instagram account for work needs:
"to score in social media requires being a little shameless. Do not feel no shyness to ask the other for a photograph, then check if it’s a good one, and if not, ask to pull a few more. Sorry, but I am not one of those“, he told me clearly disgusted. Certainly, the process causes embarrassment, even to the most leisurely of us! Things would be much more cool, if we had our own personal distinctive paparazzi, pulling our effortless poses at home, at a party or next to a celebrity, so we would not become a burden (and quite ridiculous ) to our partner or an unknown waiter.
But the need to show others the beautiful aspects of ourselves, is not due to social media. The framed wedding photos and portraits, displayed in a prominent position, facing whoever enters the house was once a common way to demonstrate our lifestyle. Exactly, like the album with family photos, an object that is found more and more, in homes and I miss it a lot! But now all of them are in the Macbook.
“Once in Rome I had met Telly Savalas and I asked him for an autograph. Two years ago, I asked David Beckham for a selfie.
A mobile is the autograph of the 21st century” says my editor.