One, would think of dating apps, web acquaintances and sexting.
Watching the eponymous BBC series that have hooked with our screens for six weeks, we find that the classic masterpiece “War and Peace” written by Tolstoy, was the first decoding attempt, of the suffering caused by love, and also, that what was applicable at the time of topic,
is still today (along with their beards).
With the quick version by BBC (they already regretted that it was made so short), where the factor of literary language, is replaced by a super talented cinematographer and a (super) production, with unlimited budgets, in hands (10 million pounds) plus that the “War” factor is capturing us, it is clear that the “War & Peace” was the “Sex & the City” of 19th century.
A soap opera where men with beards and not, with fancy uniforms and fur hats, woo, beautiful ladies in awesome garments and fur hats, in brocaded palaces (the shooting took place in St. Petersburg), which gives us lessons about flirting and relationships of today, the decade of flirting, through facebook.
1.He is Just Not Into You!
Sonia Rostov, found it out, “the hard way” when she fell madly in love, with her handsome, blond, cousin, Nikolai, who made it clear:
“ yes, once I felt something for you, but now I feel I need to be adventurous with some others…”
Briefly, he told her clearly that he is not in love with her! Phrase that when you hear it, you go down...
Moral of the story 1: …Do not fall in love with someone, who lives in the same house with you.
2. Far away Eyes…
It was not only during, the patriarchal era of “War & Peace”, that women stayed home, while men went to fight wearing some ridiculous black hats (see. Napoleon) or to inspect the vast estates wearing huge straw hats (see. Magdalena) and all relationships were “long distance” by default. It's that Johannesburg – Cape Town, was not just a three hours flight at that time, was you had to first ride the chariot, to hols your guts from puddles on the dirt road and splashes of muddy water, to keep changing every now and then wheels (2,5 meters the wheel diameter, 1,7m your height), in order to end up in an Inn, with no room available. With all that, it took a year for the Prince Andrei Bolkonsky (James Norton with dyed brown hair) to go and come, from Switzerland, where he had gone to settle some urgent “family affairs”.
Which he apparently, did on purpose, in order to give some time to actress Natasha Rostov (Lily James), so she can make sure, … that she loves him. So, while Bolkonski was struggling with fallen trunks of trees that were blocking his road, Natasha got tired of checking if she had a letter from Andrei, went through a “hit wave” with the dark complexion Anatol Kuragin.
Moral of the story 2: Do not let your date waiting.
3. No sex = High Risk.
The ugly, but young and charming, Pierre Bezukhof (Paul Dano) might have wealth more worthy than
Donald Tramp or even Scrooge, but his sexy gold digger wife Princess Elena (Tuppence Middleton) shows no damn interest, for his body. Being forced to sleep with him, the purpose of her life is to invent ways to torment him. Oh, and to “initiate” … innocent boys.
Moral of the story 3: There is no healthy relationship without sex.
4. Your first love, will not be the last.
The passionate characters of War & Peace when they fall in love, fall in love greatly, like: "Let's get married although the only common thing, that we have, is the ability to have sex … with our eyes, while swirling, on the dance floor of the Winter Palace”.
You read above Natasha’s … “activities”, that as soon as her “forever love” left her … “dry” for a year, she hooked up with Anatol.
Moral of the story 4: Do not fall in the face in the first person you meet.
Moral of the story 5: Do not say yes to a marriage proposal, while you re having … “fun” with the snow, trying to keep … “warm”.
5. Your best friend will eventually confess that he loves you.
-Denisov: "I think about you day and night.“
It doesn’t matter if you give an oath, that you will just be buddies and never, never, never, cross the limits, eventually, will come the time, that you will discover that the only thing that was in his mind, was to get into your … “life”…
Moral of the story 6: Close friendships, rarely last stay in the same level…
6. Do not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.
Mr flirt guy Dolokov, throws himself, shamelessly, to his saviour, Pierre Bezukhof, wife. And her, innocently, Princess Elena Bezouchof, not only hardly resists, but warns indirectly but clearly, her husband Pierre, for the upcoming … encounter, just to torment him. The husband looses it, and with a shot takes Dolokov down… incredible. but saves the other dude saves him. And what Dolokov did, then? He proposed marriage to the girlfriend of another buddy. Anyway, with or without a duel, it is always a bad idea to sleep with your friends boy friend, and for that matter with anyone’s boyfriend.
Moral of the story 7: Sleeping with your best friend’s man is … Much pain, Little gain.
7. Forbidden is sweeter.
Remember that one (Nikolai) who told her (Sonia) that he is not in love with her?
But just as Nikolai was told, that he can not marry his cousin Sonia, because she is broke and the family wants the money, he suffered with an immediate love stroke…
Moral of the story 8: Men are Hunters !!! Live with it !!! Deal with it !!!
When one thinks of modern relationships certainly,
the first thing that comes to mind, is not the 1250 pages book,
written by a bearded Russian, named Tolstoy half century ago.